How did this Happen?


All I did was to tell my daughter that is she wanted more accurate information on Islam, she could simply ask me and if I didn’t know the answer I would ask our sheikh. 4 hours later, she is threatening to put a restraining  order on me if I ever talk to her or her girls again. She has lost her mind. She and her husband had been fighting all day. I took the girls to the movies. I made them feel guilty, she said. I apologized to them for being in a bad mood. I told them I loved them and missed them and left crying.

Then she posted a message on FB to me about how Muslims don’t celebrate Christmas and she knows all about it because she did research and her know-it-all husband lived in Saudi Arabia. I explained that we didn’t celebrated Christmas with lights and trees because those were left-over from pagan days. But we acknowledge Christ’s birth, the Virgin Birth, and are polite and exchange greetings and small gifts with our Christian cousins, the People of the Book. We honor Jesus as a great Prophet.

Next thing, 4 hours later she is threatening to place a restraining order on me if I ever talk to her or her daughters again. I supposedly abused Jackie m=by yelling and screaming at her in public on their porch after Jackie had asked me to let them in the house since they forgot their key, and then called to say “never mind” in a snippy 15-year-old way twice. I went over and we sat quietly on the porch and I explained that she was being a bit disrespectful and we were fine after that. However, her sister called her mother at work to say I was yelling and screaming at Jackie. The entire incident was blown way out of proportion.

Now this. I explained that she should ask me about Islam if she wanted to know something and if I didn’t know the answer, I would ask our sheikh.  From there, it went to a restraining order. I am numb. She had been fighting with her husband all day. He thinks he knows all things Muslim because he lived on a western compound in Saudi Arabia.

This is so bizarre I can’t even think straight. I see my shrink tomorrow and my therapist on Tuesday. I don’t know what to do. As soon as I read her message, I got one of the worst, longest-lasting auroras (visual disturbances before a migraine) that I have ever had. My BP is through the roof. I don’t know if I can survive this. How can she take my granddaughters away from me. Even her father thinks this is crazy. I honestly don’t know what to do. She can’t get a restraining order because I have done nothing wrong nor threatened her. I feel like calling her bluff and getting the courts involved to get an order so I can see my grandchildren.

What did I do or say that set her off? I implied her husband did not know what he is talking about. She used foul language with me. She truly has lost her mind, I think. Maybe I’ll call Dr. Phil. He just may find this interesting.






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About mairedubhtx

I am a "youngish" grandmother of 15 year old twin granddaughter who has recently (is a year "recent"?) adopted Islam as my way of life, much to the consternation of my family. I love to read. I love to write. I am writing a book about my decision to revert, about my spiritual journey. I have another blog about stories from my youth, my parents, and grandparents. It's a blog so my OCD daughter will not be able to throw it out when I die. I suffer from depression and anxiety, for which I am treated, so my posts may be a bit dark at times. C'est la vie.
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