When Is it Okay to Lie?


When is it okay to lie? To strangers? To friends? To family? To yourself?

It never is really okay to lie, but we all do it to one degree or another. For example, in shop if the clerk asks “May I help you?” we might say “No thanks, just looking” because we don’t want to be bothered with the clerk although we know what we’re looking for. We might tell our friends that we can’t go out with them because we have something else to do when we are really so depressed that we want to curl up in a ball and just have a good cry. I lie to my family when I tell them I’m okay when I’m not; I wish we could spend time together. I lie to myself when I tell myself I’m okay when I know I’m not; I’m depressed and anxious and don’t want to see anyone or do anything, which is not quite normal.

Is it okay to lie in these ways? I don’t think it’s wrong because we are protecting those we love or just trying to get through something that is personal. Outright lies aren’t right. Deliberately lying to authorities or to strangers, families, or friends isn’t really right. But we are almost forced into lying to people sometimes to protect ourselves and our privacy. Lying to yourself is probably the most common lie. We deceive ourselves and try to believe something that just isn’t so. We do this all the time when we attempt to justify our behavior that we know has not been good. It’s just part of the human condition.

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About mairedubhtx

I am a "youngish" grandmother of 15 year old twin granddaughter who has recently (is a year "recent"?) adopted Islam as my way of life, much to the consternation of my family. I love to read. I love to write. I am writing a book about my decision to revert, about my spiritual journey. I have another blog about stories from my youth, my parents, and grandparents. It's a blog so my OCD daughter will not be able to throw it out when I die. I suffer from depression and anxiety, for which I am treated, so my posts may be a bit dark at times. C'est la vie.
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2 Responses to When Is it Okay to Lie?

  1. HoaiPhai says:

    So true about lying to oneself…so true! And this is the lie uttered for the shallowest of reasons but causing the greatest effect.

  2. The Hook says:

    It is a part of out makeup, but it’s also one we need to temper.

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