I am a youngish (I think) grandmother of twin 17-year-old granddaughters. I have recently adopted Islam as my way of life. I have a rocky relationship with my daughter since she married her second husband. I suffer from depression and anxiety; I sometimes feel suicidal though not as often as I used to. Yes, I do take meds and see a shrink and a therapist and have for years.
I have been married twice to emotionally unavailable men, men who seem to have little feeling except for themselves. The first one, my daughter’s father, cheated on me and then left to marry again, and again–then wife number 3 left HIM. Now he’s had 3 girlfriends in the past 3 years. Just needs a woman, I’d guess. The second one (I was wife number 4) believed that to display any emotion except anger was a weakness. He was jealous of my relationship with my daughter (he doesn’t speak to his children because they are not perfect); he was jealous of my love of my work. I was sick with migraine headaches the entire 10 years I was with him. He divorced me because I didn’t meet his expectations.
Are there any people who marry for love and keep their vows? I really wonder. Are there any relationships in which people accept you for who you really are? I really wonder about that, too.
Would just going to sleep and never waking up take away all the terrible pain and hurt? I am Muslim, and I know suicide is wrong, but could GOD ever forgive me for not being able to take any more pain in this life.
I have recently become committed to fighting for gun control in the United States, for taking the baby steps to reinstate the ban on the sale of assault-type weapons and large clips pf ammunition, and also on closing the loophole on gun show background checks. The events of the months that ended 2012 shook me to my core and energized me to take action to fight for what i believe in–that no one needs an assault weapon to hunt or for protection and no one needs 10 bullets to kill a deer; that everyone who buys a gun needs to undergo a background check, no matter where they buy their weapon. And we need to do a better job of identifying treating mental illness in this country.